The Pleasures of Masturbating Together
Masturbation is a magical thing. The rush we get from hitting all those sweet spots exactly right is unlike anything else we’ll experience, and the sexual satisfaction we receive is on a whole other level.
But why do some people see masturbation as a naughty thing? Why is it that some feel guilt from self-pleasure?
Fact: Masturbation is a Natural Thing
Masturbation is a natural thing for us to do. It’s human nature to want to pleasure ourselves, and we should welcome this, not suppress it.
Masturbation should always be welcome in any relationship.
If we can’t love ourselves, how do we expect others to be able to love us?
Masturbation in any form satisfies our sexual fantasies and cravings, but contrary to what some believe, it can actually enhance a relationship, strengthening bonds and building on our feelings and emotions.
We Know What We Want!
Self-masturbation is the perfect way to take care of our own needs and desires.
There’s no other person that can feel exactly what we feel ourselves, and we know our own bodies better than any other partner, friend or being on the planet.
We are the key to our bedroom happiness: we know exactly how to get us off in the best way possible.
We know what gets our juices flowing, where to touch to bring us to the edge and what to do as we climax to make sure each orgasm is the most pleasurable it can be.
Maybe in the future, there will be some sort of way to telepathically communicate our wants and needs to another being (or robot even?) to heighten our solo masturbation experience, but for now, people, WE KNOW WHAT WE WANT!
Share The Pleasure
Sometimes, when masturbating on our own, our fantasy may include the presence of a partner to add to the experience.
Maybe we want them to run their hands up and down our naked bodies, or we might crave their tongue techniques in our most intimate areas.
Perhaps just having them with us, their appearance, their voice or their aura is enough to take us to the brink.
Bringing a partner into our masturbating experience can be a warming and sensual way to share the pleasure together.
Mutual masturbation brings both of you closer together sexually, allowing you to take in the pleasure that your partner is enjoying at the same time as basking in your own.
Heighten your intimacy and connect on deeper levels though the passion and desire you’ll feel for each other and for yourselves.
Position Is Key
Once you’ve brought your partner into your experience, it’s time to consider how you’re going to masturbate with them.
Positions are key for masturbating together.
Do you want to face your lover and watch them as they let go? Perhaps you want to lie side by side and enjoy your time together.
Which ever position you go for, think about what you want to do and how you’re going to do it, and work the position around that.
For example, if you’re planning to caress their body with your tongue as they’re “spanking the monkey”, you want to be up close to them, not lying next to them.
Talk Dirty To Me
Masturbation is more than just a wank.
It’s a moment of pleasure for both of you to enjoy, and adding things to your own “you” time can skyrocket your experience.
Let go of your inhibitions and hang ups! Talking dirty is one way to spice things up. Whisper into each other’s ears, delicately and softly.
Tell them what you’re thinking and what you want to do with them, how much they turn you on and when you’re getting close.
Then moan, scream, yell and let the neighbours know how much pleasure you’re having… well, maybe not that much, but you get the gist of it!
Game Night
If you’re looking for something fun to do together, you can turn your mutual masturbation into sexy evening entertainment; an adult party, if you will!
Forget your common boring old board games, time for some real raunchy play time!
Setting game rules, such as “first one to cum has to ___” or “guess when the other is about to orgasm”, will turn your mutual masturbation session into playful sex.
Or, you could choose one of the many sex games on the market, like board games or sex dice to make things even more competitive…
Ready and Willing
So when should you mutually masturbate together?
There’s no “perfect time” as such, it just depends on how you feel and what your dynamic is.
One thing is essential though, you’ve both go to be horny! If you’re not in the mood, let them know.
Don’t play the trying to fake an orgasm game if you just don’t feel like getting off.
Many things can affect our libido, and whether you’re feeling sick, are too tired or just don’t feel like you want to, don’t pressure yourself into it.
It’s just not fun. Be present, ready and willing!
For those that are on their periods, mutual masturbation is a great alternative to pleasure when period sex isn’t on the cards.
Couples can still be intimate together and enjoy some time in the bedroom without the pressure and worry that it can bring for some.
Mutual Masturbation is also a great way of getting to know your other half’s body, and where their most important erogenous zones are.
Outside of penetrative sex, you’re free to move around more easily and you can focus on the signs that your partner gives when you touch, kiss and lick different areas.
You’ll gain a great understanding of how to make them tick, giving way to a stronger sexual connection and more powerful and more pleasurable orgasms.
Pornography Pleasure
Although a taboo subject for some couples in a relationship, watching pornography together whilst masturbating is a favourite bedroom activity for others.
Picture your next date night: a romantic meal in, a bottle of wine, and then retiring to the boudoir where you both indulge in some intimate masturbation time together while watching a sexy adult film, effectively creating a live porn show in your very own bedroom that you can be a part of!
What could be more erotic than turning to your lover and watching them pleasure themself as they watch you doing it back?
Watch Me Wank!
You don’t HAVE to both masturbate at the same time, either.
Some adventurous lovers like to be watched by partners, friends or anyone as they get themselves off.
This is known as Voyeurism, and many men and women love the idea of their sexual gratification being watched by others.
They often like to “perform” to their audience, whether that’s one person or a whole room of voyeurs, and this adds to their experience even more, heightening their excitement and experience.
You could take it in turns and watch each other as you each climax and get to the edge. Looking deeply into each other’s eyes while getting close can be incredibly erotic, after all.
Use This as A Tool
Mutual Masturbation can be beneficial for both your sex life and also for connecting on a deeper level with your partner, providing a deeper understanding of their turn ons and where their sweet spots are.
There is always a place for masturbation, whether you’re in a relationship or not.
It’s important to know that masturbation isn’t just for single people, and it shouldn’t stop the second you enter into a relationship.
It’s a tool that you can use to increase the passion and sensuality within a couple, so use it wisely to help build the foundations of a diverse, exciting and positive relationship.
